In this age of social media and having an online presence, we can get caught up in the “perfection” of it all. We curate Everything. How people see us, what we say and don’t say. How others see our lives on social media and in public. Curating our online presence isn’t always a BAD thing… I don’t want to share all about every crummy day that I have. I make a choice to not share things that aren’t uplifting and life-giving.
But I want to ask:
Are we curating our daily lives?
Let me explain:
I believe that we can curate a life that we love. We have the power to choose what we focus on; whether it’s the good, or the bad. We can select the things we want to allow space in our lives. You have the ability to choose the beauty, meaningful work, and the lifestyle that lights you up inside. Organizing happens when we decide what is most important in our lives, & we begin to create systems and rhythms that help us enjoy our daily lives more. We can present the world to ourselves in a beautiful light, or we can focus on the negative and be miserable.
Don’t get me wrong: I’m not talking about a perfect life. Life happens. Relationships and emotions and EVERYTHING can be complicated. It’s not something that we can avoid. I’m not telling you that you can have a “pinterest-perfect” life, but I am telling you that it’s possible to love this amazing thing we call life. Life can be more than just going through the motions of each day, checking off that to-do list, and starting over again the next morning.
So… how can we Curate a Life we Love?
Be Willing to Say NO.
If we are to start curating a life we love, we have to be willing to say NO. There are going to be things that we don’t want to do, and things that we aren’t interested in doing. But I have had times where I still say “yes” to things I don’t want to make space for in my life? Part of this is because of my desire to people-please. The other part is because I just don’t like saying no. I’m learning that I have to be more willing to say no if I want to curate a life that I love!
Look for the Beautiful.
Our mindset is directly affected by what we focus on. Am I choosing to focus on the beautiful moments in life, or dwelling on the bad stuff? If I dwell too long on the crummy moments, my joy begins to fade. I’m trying to learn how to let go of the things that annoy or frustrate me, and focus more on what is beautiful. Instead of complaining about the things that annoyed me today, I’m learning to focus on chasing wonderment. The times the kids snuggled and hugged each other is what I want to remember, not how they fought for two hours straight.
Seek What Brings you Joy
Each day, look for things that bring you joy. Instead of just drinking your coffee for the energy boost, take time to smell it. Too quickly I can get caught up in my to-do list, and I forget to actually ENJOY the good things in life. Stop yourself. Listen to the birds singing in the morning, or the crickets chirping at dusk. I love certain smells (ahem… coffee… 😆) and stopping on the side of the road to watch the sunset. When something brings you joy, focus on it, and make time to enjoy it!
Here’s the long and short of this whole, long post: You can CHOOSE to find joy right where you are. It’s not always easy… and sometimes life is really tough, and there’s aren’t any rainbows (yet). But I know from experience that often things aren’t as bad as they seem… I’m just too busy being focused on the bad stuff. The less-than pleasant things, like the toddlers fighting or the aches and pains I’m feeling. If I take a step back and look with an eye for curating, I begin to see more and more beauty.
How can you begin to Curate a life you love?